You are not less queer, just less interesting to me.
As a side note, I’ve understood bisexual monogamy. Granted, I can’t relate to monogamy in general at this point, but specifically in regards to bisexuals, I have a hard time seeing how you can just give up an entire gender for the rest of your life unless it’s really not that big of a part of your sexuality. I have an even harder time relating to monogamous straight partners of bisexuals who can ask them to give that up without feeling like a tremendous shithead.
I mean, think about it. The person above said they have no doubt they’ll spend the rest of their life with someone of the opposite sex. If they’re monogamous, that means that getting together with their opposite sex life partner will mean the end of them enjoying sex with anyone of the same sex as them. Forever. For a bisexual female, wouldn’t that essentially put you in the position of saying, “Wow, I love girls so much! Can’t wait to meet a great boy and then never fuck a girl again!”
That just seems weird and sad to me, but again, I don’t really understand monogamy. My life partner is sleeping a few feet from me, and I can still fuck and love whomever I want, and so can she.
I think you’re getting your aversion to monogamy in general mixed into it. “I have a hard time seeing how you can just give up an entire gender for the rest of your life” is not, to me, substantially different from saying to a monosexual monogamous person “I have a hard time seeing how you can pick one member of a gender and give up everyone else of that gender for the rest of your life.” It might sound odd, but that’s just how monogamous people function….
Granted, I’ve only been with women (actually, one woman) at this point in my life, so maybe I don’t appreciate the differences that people of other genders bring to the table. I can’t imagine that the differences between people of various genders are much greater than the differences between individual people, though.
I’ve never been one to discuss my sexuality. Just keep it locked up unless to a few of my good friends and family. Although, I couldn’t help myself with this post. It’s tough to be bi-sexual! Even just the word sounds so unappealing. I am attracted to both males and females, but I don’t believe I am bi-sexual. I believe that I am not attracted to gender, because I am attracted to people. Whatever gender they may be is just another detail about them that I get to know, because the intricacies of an individual person are more notable than any gender stamp you can put on them.
I’ve been burned and shunned from communities of lesbians because I sleep with boys, and my straight friends don’t take my attraction to girls seriously. They think I just say it for attention. Both situations are hurtful. If a bi-sexual person makes a declaration like this, perhaps it’s because they feel they have no other choice.
Furthermore, I know nothing of the context of these words. What if they were expressed because they met someone they love? Just a thought.
I wish people would be more open minded. I really do. Even in a homosexual community there are still gender roles, and it’s frustrating to me. Love who you love, and that’s it! Do what you do, and stop dissecting other peoples choices. In my experience, there should really be more love and acceptance among queer folk.
(Source: queersecrets)
I don't define myself by what I am interested in, I define myself with how I behave. I am working towards shifting unconscious thought processes and behaviors, and I don't find it very hard to remain humble. Loyalty and honesty are tied at number one for most important things in life, ever. 
